Being Submissive

Women (including me) usually are taught that being submissive to a man is a "no no". That a man should never be superior to a woman ever. When most women hear the word "submissive", they think of the 50's or 60's, because most women cleaned and cooked and were treated less than by their husbands. Including the fact, They were never appreciated and did what their husbands told them to. I've heard older men say "they don't make them how they use to, women were obedient and submissive back in my day."

Obedient?.... That makes me want to roll my eyes. So I can see why being submissive to a man can be unappealing to our generation. That's if you associate it with sixties years ago to caveman time. Who would want to be that "woman" in our modern day society? I mean, isn't that the reason why in the 70's & 80's women wanted to be equal to men, and wanted to be treat as such. Not to mention the "sex, weed, peace, love" hippie movement.

I can admit, being treated like a man can get you uppercuted. Besides we had to evolve from the old maid to the modern day women at some point. Few may only cook and clean now but gaining intelligence was definitely a plus. But back to this tarnished word "submission", will women never know this again? & I'm not talking about the total men domination version or the Webster definition. So what am I talking about?

Well, submission to me and a lot of women in great relationships is... Letting a man be dominanting, not controlling. Trusting him to take the lead, not telling you what to do. Recognizing his presence, not gaveling at his feet. Having the passionate desire to please him, not slaving to his every need. Praising the power of his macuslinity, not worshipping his pockets. Obeying his direction and dreams, not being discipled to listen. Honoring his efforts and good intentions, not being miserable by his behavior. Loving the way he adores you, not putting up with his mistreatment.

A woman cannot be commanded to submit, she has to choose and long to be dominanted by that man. The love, passion, and admiration of a man that treat her like a queen will cause her to want to please him in anyway possible. To completely want to submit to him & their love. To me, a man that can control his woman is only done through fear but a man that can dominate his woman is only done through love. Secretly or not... Every woman wants to be dominated but no woman wants to be controlled.

Unfortunately, Truth be told... Every male do not know how to dominant while every female do not know how to be submissive. But the ones that do, are in a blissful state in their relationship.

Lol I'm single though, maybe I don't know what I'm talking about.

Until next time:)

Love lost

Love that fades, will be hard to endure. Seeing them in the future and being total strangers. Loving them and hating them at the same time. Love that ended between two people is a lesson in life. You needed that experience to grow or to learn something you needed to learn. Everything that becomes apart of our lives are there because we wanted it. Nothing just happens, we actually called it into existance.

We choose how we live our life by the choices we make everyday. And that love got lost for a reason. Don't dwell on the love that was once shared because it mostly likely won't bring it back. You just have to evaluate what was the lesson and did you learn from it. Then you can move on stronger and better in a new direction.

You will hurt. The pain will be real. The tears will fall... Maybe everyday. & you will miss them constantly. But you will grow and it will push you forward. You may feel like you will never love again, but you will. You will be wiser. You will be more cautious. You will meet someone new.

However, the true test will be to keep your heart open. To not crumble under the pain and hurt. To understand that this was meant to happen cause everything happens for a reason. So mourn your lost. Cry until you can't cry anymore. Relieve the memories as many times as you want to. Miss them like crazy. But when you're ready...the soon the better... Let go. Be happy they came into your life and move on.

If that love was meant to be, nothing can stop it from being. If that love was just an experience then let it just be an experience. If that love was just a lesson then learn the lesson. Figure out what was the purpose of that love because it wasn't lost for nothing.

Until next time:)

Note to self

Action is the best way someone can show you what you mean to them. Words are nice when they are said but at the end of the day... They are just words. We put so much on people words that when action don't balance what we were told... We become disappointed. Or begin making excuses for their lack of action. I am a pleaser, so I often feel like I'm not getting what I put out. I just have to learn to stop making excuses for behavior I feel I do not deserve or lack of effort I do not receive. I have to remind myself that actions and words go hand & hand.

Action is required in love. If I love you I must show it. If I like you I must show it. If I care I must show it. If I want you in my life I must show it. If I'm your friend I must show it. If I'm your family I must show it. If you feel you are getting taken advantage of or your efforts aren't matched... Deal or remove yourself from the situation. It may be hard but you happiness depends on you.

Until next time:)

Poem: Lost in him

He lives in my mind... Every thought he's there, in every memory he resides. Every dream he awakens, in every fantasy he lives. I can't escape his image that is burned into my head. He lives in my heart... Every beat is for him, in the day & in the night. He lives in my soul... Every piece of my soul has become one with his. He lives in my body... Every touch I feel him, in every kiss I crave him. Every embrace I want him, in every moment I yearn him. I can't run from this temptation, no matter how hard I try. With him is nothing compared to being with you, In just silence with you is home. When he kisses me... It's your lips I imagine. Looking into your eyes was looking at myself. From perfection to second best. There is not enough tears to mourn your loss. How do I tell him, I'm lost in you?