You may feel lonely. You may want love now. But what would be the point if you can't keep the love you want to have? To work on yourself means to fix the flaws you already have. To heal from the damage and pain from you past. Also, to learn to truly love the inside and outside of yourself.
The loneliness may be tough to handle and seeing others coupled up may make you feel like you are missing out. But that's when you have to make the decision... Do you want something short term or something long term? If you want something long term then it will take time but will be well worth the wait. Now, if you feel unhappy alone and don't want to get to the bottom of why you feel that way then do what will make you happy. If that means sex or being with anyone then maybe you are not ready for real love.
I think if you cannot feel happy, fulfilled, and loved alone, then you will not feel those emotions in a relationship. Real love is two individuals that are already complete in themselves that come together whole. Love isn't about finding something that you are lacking in yourself in another because that would mean you are leaching off the person. Love have nothing to do with taking as much as you can get from that person, it's about giving to that person unconditionally.
The best thing you can do for yourself is to work on you. The best thing you can do for your future mate is to be already complete and in love with yourself. Because if you are already in love with yourself, you will be irresistible in every way.
