You may want something good but are you ready?

People say all the time "I want a real relationship", " I want real love", "I want a good man", "I want a good woman"... etc. Question is, are you ready or prepare to handle and keep something good? People always want what they are not ready to have, or crave something they don't intend to keep. Then what happens is someone ends up heart broken, disappointed, upset, or changed. Changed meaning their whole thinking gets screwed up, like they proclaim to themselves "I don't deserve to have something good"... "all men are dogs"... "all women are sluts"... " I can't trust anyone"... I hate commitment"... etc. And what happens is what you think becomes your reality. Every guy you meet will be that lying, cheating dog in a disguise. And every women you meet will be the undercover slut. Or every relationship you get will be trustless and never committed.

You can want all you want but if you are not emotionally, mentally, physically, and spiritually ready... It won't last forever. Someone in the relationship will feel unsatisfied or unfulfilled. Someone will change who you thought they were right before your eyes. Some will run from that great relationship. Some will continue to lie and cheat causing destruction to that relationship. Why because they may have wanted what they got and wasn't ready for it or their thinking was above^ and they got exactly what they believed to be true.

All is dysfunctional and for love or anything to work or last your whole being have to be ready. Here's a example: most people want to win the lottery, some people do but are they ready to win millions of dollars? The majority that win are not, that's why the majority that wins the lottery (millions of dollars) are in debt by the next year. Now the ones that remain rich with their winnings are the ones that were already rich in their life. They already felt rich in their job, family, love... So when they won millions of dollars, they didn't blow through that money but continue as if they didn't win at all. Why? Because they already felt rich in life (completely ready on all levels). So they were already rich before they became rich, which kept them rich. Get it?

If you want something, change your thinking, believe in every inch of your being that you can have it. Then do the inner work. Start preparing for what you want. Get ready on all levels (emotionally fit to handle what you want, physically capable to deal with what you want, mentally stable to function with what you want, and spiritually tune into yourself &God for strength/guidance).

It take work to prepare for what you want, to get what you want, and to keep what you want. It's out there and you can have it. Just truly believe you can get it. Do the inner and outer work and love the journey and yourself. Anything is possible. Anything good is already yours once you believe that it is. Preparation and patience beautiful people, you can get what you want and keep it forever.
Until next time:)

I thought I was detached from him:(

I'm ready to admit to myself that there is still a great deal of attachment that I have to my ex. I've realized this a long time ago but wanted to deny it to myself. I've spent four years with this guy so I would say it could be normal to still have some form of attachment left. But that is not true, the bonds between us is still not completely broken, meaning I'm not completely moved on. If a person can alter your mood or emotions by his or her words or actions, he/she still have control over you. Just like if you are in a relationship and your ex can cause emotions to arise in you, good or bad, you are not over them.

Now my ex causes my mood to go down, makes me feel sad, makes me feel jealousy, makes me mad, makes me feel guilty, makes me feel hurt, frustrated, just to name some. That's alot for an ex to be able to do.

No person, I don't care who they are, should have that much power over you emotionally, spiritually, physically or mentally to cause a shift in yourself. And the only reason he has this power over me emotionally is because I allow him to. So why am I allowing him this power? My attachment to him is still there and I still care about him. But it's possible to care about someone but not be attach. I can care about his well being but he shouldn't be able to rob me of my happiness.

I need to do more inner work because I have to heal the reason why I am allowing him this power. I truly want him to be happy in his life but I can't allow this to continue with me. I have to detach and it may be hard to find the root but I will never be the happiest I can be unless only I alone can control the power to my emotions.
Until next time:)

Poem: What is this?

When I see your face, I can't help but smile.
The simple pressure of your lips upon mines is unbearable.
The heat from your arms around me causes me to burn inside.
The touch of your hands relaxes my marathon mind.
The sweet truth in your scent makes me breathe clarity.
But I'm scare, terrified, what is this?
Is this real? Or just another tale of heartbreak?
But when I see your face, I can't help but smile because I'm no longer afraid.

I can't control my body around you.
The passionate kisses erases the pain.
The look in your eyes heals my heart.
The sucks on my neck accelerates my pulse.
The love in your fingers as you run them through my hair makes me weak.
But I'm scare, confused, what is this?
Is this only sexual? Or could it blossom into true love?
But when I see your face, I can't help but smile because I'm no longer in doubt.

I don't like not speaking to you.
The hurt I felt when you said goodbye was misery.
The talks on the phone even the silent ones are cherished.
The texts you send are like sunshine.
The voice you have is irresistible to my ears.
But I'm scared, detaching, what is this?
Are we best friends? Or will you just take this away again?
But when I see your face, I can't help but smile because I'm attached to you.

I'm not your girl. We both are single.
Our relationship can cause pain and destroy friendships.
Neither one of us want to take that risk but we can't fight it either.
Our hearts are pumping but our brains are lacking the blood supply.
The tension, the frustration, the fear is weighing on us.
But I'm scared, there's no commitment, what is this?
Are we friends? Secret lovers? Or just two people that will never be nothing more then this?
But when I see your face, "what is this?" disappears and I know that we just might be meant to be and nothing in this world can stop that but time. So I can't help but to smile because you are smiling back at me.