I deserve better....

I deserve a love that makes life worth while. A love that brings forth clarity. A love that gives me understanding. A love that transform me spiritually. A love that's truly amazing. A love that never leaves.

I may still be naive. Even borderline stupid. It has become taboo to believe that finding such a love in this century is possible. Most people believe love sucks and hurt like hell. Why would anyone want to experience that? Why would anyone want to open up just to get their heart ripped out? I say... Love isn't hurting you... Impulsive actions, fear, & not knowing how to love is hurting you. I may be wrong... But blaming love is absolutely wrong.

Just maybe... People often don't find real love or the love they feel they deserve because they don't wait. Or they are scared. Or they need to change themselves for the better. If you hate being lonely and be with anyone, you will get hurt repeatedly. If you are scared because you've been hurt... You will push every good thing away. If you are dysfunctional, your actions will be dysfunctional... Your relationships will be dysfunctional.

Fear is the total opposite of love. If you are fearful... Fear of being lonely, fear of settling, fear of getting hurt, fear of change... Any type of fear... That is what you will attract to yourself. Want love but fearful of being cheated on? Say goodbye to the old cheating bastard & hello to the new cheating bastard. You scared to get hurt? So you end up hurting people that love you or get hurt by someone thats also scared of getting hurt. you want a great person... they show up... they end up in the friend zone because you don't know what great qualities look like... just how to say them. Want love? Can't have fear... Sound simple but not simple huh? I know.

We live in a fearful society. All we know is fear. We say we know love... But do we? We just know the idea of love from movies, music, & books. Most of us hardly grew up seeing our parents experiencing true love. Or experience seeing true love from others. We see pictures of young couples & say I want that... But don't see how much pain lives in their hearts. I want to see what fifty years happily together looks like. We believe early on that arguing is part of a healthy relationship, all men cheat, all women lie, that there's no such thing of true love... Just make it work with who you got. We tell our children... Your father is a deadbeat, not realizing you are changing this child perception of all men. Or your mother is a bit**, now all women in life may be bit**** to this child as they grows up.

Fathers are daughters first love but learn to love from a women... Mothers are sons first love but learn to love through a man...Mess that up... Scarred.

I had a great father & he loved me. I have a great mother & she loves me. But I never experience seeing an healthy loving relationship. I don't know what real true love looks like. I know I put really great guys in the friend zone. I know I liked guys that were bad, thinking I could change them. I've settled because I didn't want to wait anymore. I was fearful. I met a soulmate & the timing was off because I feared the timing was wrong. I know a good guy that I pushed away, or didn't appreciate, or hurt them unconsciously so in return I got pushed away, unappreciated, or hurt. I know a good guy that put me in the friend zone after I put him in the friend zone because I was scared of liking him...the like didn't go away but i'm still in the friend zone. I gotta learn to love the right way and I'm open and willing to learn. I need to learn what "true love" is instead of knowing how it sounds.

Point is... I'm letting go of my fears and I'm always gonna believe fearlessly that true love awaits. No more letting good guys or soul-mates get away because I'm scared. No more putting up with what I feel I don't deserve. No more accepting people fears & insecurities. I'm letting go of fear again and going back to my natural state of love. Let go of fear... Love yourself... Attract all thing & people in love... Because love is what you deserve.

I deserve... A deep friendship, undeniable closeness, strongly felt passionate chemistry, unexplainable attraction, an healthy companionship, equally shared feelings & bliss, love that I could feel every second of the day... fearlessness in every sense... love I rather not live without... Real and perfectly satisfying... True love.