Letting Go

As human beings we become attach very easily to each other or things in general. Sometimes, we don't even know we are attached to another person until we don't see them for awhile. Too many make the mistake of holding on to a person because they've been with that person for along time. You know their scent, their facial expressions, their laugh, their smile and just thinking about it makes you miss them. Ya'll shared years worth of memories, phone calls, texts, kisses, love. But the fights and arguements are unbearable, the pain outweights the passion, the tears don't even phase you anymore and the trust....what trust? Your mind knows you should move on but your heart is stuck on we can make it work. You know ya'll are not compatible but all that time spent together, you can't let go.

My thought on letting go is, the more you hold on the more time is wasted. You'll keep building memories while enduring more of the same. Attachment doesn't change people or create new indiviuals. Attachment makes you learn to cope with the worst part but doesn't teach you how to let go of it. Ya'll keep growing on each other like parasites, getting satification but also destroying each other at the same time. Our instincts keep telling us to run but we ignore them because we don't want to start over. We fight the breakup, knowing it's unavoidable. We crave for it to go back to how it use to be, the basics, but know the history prevents things from going back to how they use to be.

If pain could automatically get erased, there would be no break ups. If sorry could create true forgiviness, the brain storage for hurt would vanish. If everytime you saw that person was a fresh new slate, we would be robots. You can't be human if you never experience pain from another human. The problem is when you experienced too much pain and lies from the same person. The months of going unaware of the cover up that the person you trusted was doing behind your back. The lies that person wouldn't admit to you until they were caught smack in it. The constant betrayal of the bodily flesh in which ya'll agreed to share with each other. The disappointments from meaningful time and the constant chipping of your heart. All of this cause history that can't be computer click to undo and it will never be forgotten. Nothing you can do to make it disappear. This is the sole reason why people give up on love and relationships.

Okay so you still holding on... huh? Everytime you try to work it out, it always go back to being the same... right? The person keeps saying "I've change for you" or "I will change for you" but doesn't, correct? Ya'll been together so long, how do you start over, is your question... right? I love them too much to let go...with tears in your eyes? I'm sorry to say... it's time to let go. There too much history that can never be corrected... no ring, promise, pledge to change will work. Yes, it's possible that you can become numb and find some reason in the relationship to stay which will make you become comfortable as you start resenting that person. Or that person can actually CHANGE and do a 360 degree angle like in mathematics and start treating you great without doing one ounce of bad, that could trigger the past and drag everything to hell. Only a few people have completely changed and you don't want someone to get comfortable because it's not the same as being in love.

Okay how to let go...you have to complately let go. Tell them why ya'll can't be together anymore and erase all contact. No phone calls, texts, tweets, pictures, booty calls, visual sighting. You have to go cold turkey, you have to withdraw from the attachment. Like rehab you have to make it disappear from your life. Of course you will miss them very much but you have to remind yourself that you will get better and they will get better also. And in this mourning you will acquire growth and understanding that only this experience could teach you. You will become a better person and therefore be better to the next (hopefully). And if that love just so happens to come back years later unexpectedly (without you sneaking during the cold turkey process) it's possible it was meant to be or atleast a second chance to get it right. If you've tried more than two times to make it work it's time for the cold turkey process and a new love... not years of worthless trying.
until next time:)