Cheating: part 1 (Men)

So many women all over want to know, why do men cheat? Well the answer is simple as men are, they cheat because they can. Now I know that concept is throwing you off, but i'm going to explain. Men may use excuses and reasons for why they did it, although it usually have nothing to do with you. Trust me if it had something to do with you, they would dump you and move on to the next. Men aren't as emotional as females so it wouldn't be that hard to start over new. Now i'm not saying that it never has something to do with the female because it does sometimes. If you are in a relationship and you and your partner is having sex once every two weeks (and ya'll not old), yea he's cheating. And this has everything to do with age (less than 30), no responsibilities (a job or part time father), millions of women (that are easy), temptation of the flesh (human hormones), compatibility (ya'll not right for each other), upbringing (What was taught and learnt from a role model), and love (how deep their feelings are for you).

Females do sometimes drive a man to cheat (I know don't kill me, just listen), If our trust is so broken that we can't hug or kiss that person why are we still with them? We sometimes think since he hurt us so badly, we can just stay in a relationship and expect him to go without sex while he's fighting for our love again. Celibacy is a choice not a pushed action (i've made that choice) so why do we feel hurt when he cheats again? Because our thinking is all wrong. A man doesn't think like us, we can just stop having sex, it's hard for a man too... different bodies and different operations of the brain. Look at the behavior of other mammals, for instance, lions can mate with any female lion he wants and up to 60 times a day. No excuses i'm giving because penguins males searches for one female and when he finds her, he stays with her for life (soulmates). But men are kind of in between depending on the situations (above).

Guys can be in a one woman relationship, yes, it's possible. But it has to be their choice to do so. Nothing you have or do can make a man not cheat. Halle Berry got cheated on (probably every guy she's been with) and she's one of the most beautiful females in the world.

Okay so men cheat because they can...why is this true? It's accepted but all, you may not agree with cheating but you know more people that says "men cheat that's life". You take the blame for his cheating (maybe I wasn't doing something in bed). Encouragement from all men in the world (no man tells another man cheating is wrong, it's taboo). Women !!!! (willing to take your place and do what you wont). Upbringing (he saw his father cheated or all his friends that taught him the ropes cheated). Immature (can't put your feelings pass his own). Society (music, media, books, people... give cheating a thumbs up). Love (it just isn't strong enough to overcome temptation).

Why do men almost always get caught because they are sloppy and forgetful. Here's a test ladies, if you wanna know if your instincts are right (only if ya'll are in a relationship). Just ask him for his phone out of the blue, if he ask why say I want to see something and you can look to see what i'm doing. If he says NO!! or keep asking you question after question still not giving you the phone... he's hiding something serious. Listen I know it's a brainwashing going on that says you have no right to go through his phone and he's aware (not being sneaky). But I disagree, if you asked him have he cheated and he says no, then you have a right to find out and his phone is key. Men hide everything in their phone... Men will argue with you over their phone, yell at you, storm off, get angry for that phone. Men that are not hiding nothing will have no problem with you looking through their phone. Okay so he gives you the phone (miracle) check contacts any name like (olive oil, asian, radio shack, etc) he's hiding something he don't want you to know, ask questions. If he's on aim alot or won't friend you on facebook.... sorry the signs are there he's cheating or lying alot to you. Oh if he has two phones ask for both:)

I say if you are not willing to accept his cheating.... run. If he's hiding girls numbers and names and you didn't know...run. It has nothing to do with love so don't make excuses or blame yourself. God put us through things because we need to learn from it. You make the choice to have a cheating partner or not, to build a relationship on lies or not. Yes, it's hard for men not to cheat but not impossible, find someone that will not. If you are against cheating nothing he does will make it right (marriage, living together, children, not knowning) as a female you will know in your gut and you will see the signs.....so you need to run. Attachment is not enough to stay, you will be slowly killing yourself if you stay, find your way out. Love is out there just be patient. Oh and women cheat too and I will talk about that... Part 2.
Until next time:)