What is perfect love?

The desire to experience myself in you spiritually. That's my definition and that is what perfect love is to me. I don't believe I can experience perfect love through my body or through my mind. I can only know the true perfection in loving another spiritually.

If I use my body to know perfect love with another... It will fail. Moments of passion is not true love. An attachment that our bodies create is not love... Also known as soul ties. Lust will not allow me to experience perfect love because its not found in sex. If you believe that the body holds the soul and that the soul is our true self. How can you expect to experience perfect love in something that is not real. For your body will fade but your soul will never cease to exist.

The mind cannot comprehend what perfect love is. Your mind makes true what ever you want to believe is true. Your thoughts become true no matter what. What you think comes into being. Your mind records and perceive everything you have ever experience in your life. Your mind constantly try's to recreate every experience over and over again unconsciously.

For examples, If you grew up without a parent or without one of your parents, you will likely always search for reassurance that you are a worthy, you will never trust anyone, anybody love will never be enough or never feel loved, You will vow never to leave someone or your child.
Patterns.
If you grew up witnessing abuse, you will likely become controlled/controlling or abused/abusive in some form... Verbally, mentally, or physically.
Patterns.
If you witnessed alcoholism or drug abuse, you are likely to drink or use drugs or attract a lot of drinkers or drug users.
Patterns.
If you experienced sexual abuse, your child or someone close will likely experience sexual abuse too. If you were sexually promisious, your child or someone close will likely be also.
Patterns.
If you grew up seeing dysfunction pretending to be love, you are likely to experience dysfunction as love.
Patterns.
Our generation calls dysfunction.... Love.

Yes. Patterns can be broken and you can create any reality you choose. But if you do not make the pattern conscious, you will keep recreating your experiences unconsciously. It's this fault in the operation of our minds that we cannot experience perfect love through our minds. Spiritual people know not to let their minds create for them but to create using their minds. You will never know perfect love, you will only know dysfunction disguised as love.

Your body and mind work together. What you experience in your body you will experience in your mind. This is called hormones and the chemicals that are released. These pleasure filled moments causes chemical reactions...making your mind feel good or on cloud nine. So being that you are high, you believe you must be in love but really you are just high. Its when you get use to those brain chemicals being produced with that person that you see that human for who they really are. But we still stay...why? Because our bodies already created an attachment and our mind keep replaying the good and bad experiences over & over. People say love is blind... It's not. We blind ourselves from the dysfunction that always been there & when the pain make those feel good chemicals go away. We continue to lie to ourselves because we want to believe the dysfunction is love. So the mind make you believe what you want to be true. While recreating the same reality over and over for you unconsciously with many or just one.

What is dysfunction? Anything that cause you pain or fear. It is true, love does not hurt or cause pain. Human bodies & minds is what cause hurt & pain. If dysfunction is what lives in the mind, it will be experience & express through the body.

As I said, perfect love can only be experience spiritually. It's because once you become spiritually conscious... Only then can your see, feel, & recognize perfect love. Only the perfect love in me can see the perfect love in you... Which is perfect love. This is also known as soulmates. My soul is the perfect love of God, everybody soul is... All living beings are. When I become spiritually conscious, I become perfect love.

This is why most spiritual teachers stayed alone like... Jesus, buddha, & all monks. Because sometimes the perfect love you experience with yourself is enough.

Perfect love is possible but only few will experience it because to become spiritually conscious is a lot of work. Both people have to be conscious and that's hard to find. So most will have dysfunctional love and wonder why they are not happy or satisfied or why it hurts so bad. I'm not talking about going to church together or reading the bible together or even praying together. That all mental... You have to go beyond and within.

Perfect love is everything a wonderful relationship should be. Loving, kind, understanding, patient, tender, gentle, supportive, respectful, sweet, honest, accepting.... Basically anything that brings happiness. For whatever I do to you I do to myself. I am you and you are me, we are one. Perfect love.

What is perfect love? My desire to experience my true self in you.

Being Submissive

Women (including me) usually are taught that being submissive to a man is a "no no". That a man should never be superior to a woman ever. When most women hear the word "submissive", they think of the 50's or 60's, because most women cleaned and cooked and were treated less than by their husbands. Including the fact, They were never appreciated and did what their husbands told them to. I've heard older men say "they don't make them how they use to, women were obedient and submissive back in my day."

Obedient?.... That makes me want to roll my eyes. So I can see why being submissive to a man can be unappealing to our generation. That's if you associate it with sixties years ago to caveman time. Who would want to be that "woman" in our modern day society? I mean, isn't that the reason why in the 70's & 80's women wanted to be equal to men, and wanted to be treat as such. Not to mention the "sex, weed, peace, love" hippie movement.

I can admit, being treated like a man can get you uppercuted. Besides we had to evolve from the old maid to the modern day women at some point. Few may only cook and clean now but gaining intelligence was definitely a plus. But back to this tarnished word "submission", will women never know this again? & I'm not talking about the total men domination version or the Webster definition. So what am I talking about?

Well, submission to me and a lot of women in great relationships is... Letting a man be dominanting, not controlling. Trusting him to take the lead, not telling you what to do. Recognizing his presence, not gaveling at his feet. Having the passionate desire to please him, not slaving to his every need. Praising the power of his macuslinity, not worshipping his pockets. Obeying his direction and dreams, not being discipled to listen. Honoring his efforts and good intentions, not being miserable by his behavior. Loving the way he adores you, not putting up with his mistreatment.

A woman cannot be commanded to submit, she has to choose and long to be dominanted by that man. The love, passion, and admiration of a man that treat her like a queen will cause her to want to please him in anyway possible. To completely want to submit to him & their love. To me, a man that can control his woman is only done through fear but a man that can dominate his woman is only done through love. Secretly or not... Every woman wants to be dominated but no woman wants to be controlled.

Unfortunately, Truth be told... Every male do not know how to dominant while every female do not know how to be submissive. But the ones that do, are in a blissful state in their relationship.

Lol I'm single though, maybe I don't know what I'm talking about.

Until next time:)

Love lost

Love that fades, will be hard to endure. Seeing them in the future and being total strangers. Loving them and hating them at the same time. Love that ended between two people is a lesson in life. You needed that experience to grow or to learn something you needed to learn. Everything that becomes apart of our lives are there because we wanted it. Nothing just happens, we actually called it into existance.

We choose how we live our life by the choices we make everyday. And that love got lost for a reason. Don't dwell on the love that was once shared because it mostly likely won't bring it back. You just have to evaluate what was the lesson and did you learn from it. Then you can move on stronger and better in a new direction.

You will hurt. The pain will be real. The tears will fall... Maybe everyday. & you will miss them constantly. But you will grow and it will push you forward. You may feel like you will never love again, but you will. You will be wiser. You will be more cautious. You will meet someone new.

However, the true test will be to keep your heart open. To not crumble under the pain and hurt. To understand that this was meant to happen cause everything happens for a reason. So mourn your lost. Cry until you can't cry anymore. Relieve the memories as many times as you want to. Miss them like crazy. But when you're ready...the soon the better... Let go. Be happy they came into your life and move on.

If that love was meant to be, nothing can stop it from being. If that love was just an experience then let it just be an experience. If that love was just a lesson then learn the lesson. Figure out what was the purpose of that love because it wasn't lost for nothing.

Until next time:)

Note to self

Action is the best way someone can show you what you mean to them. Words are nice when they are said but at the end of the day... They are just words. We put so much on people words that when action don't balance what we were told... We become disappointed. Or begin making excuses for their lack of action. I am a pleaser, so I often feel like I'm not getting what I put out. I just have to learn to stop making excuses for behavior I feel I do not deserve or lack of effort I do not receive. I have to remind myself that actions and words go hand & hand.

Action is required in love. If I love you I must show it. If I like you I must show it. If I care I must show it. If I want you in my life I must show it. If I'm your friend I must show it. If I'm your family I must show it. If you feel you are getting taken advantage of or your efforts aren't matched... Deal or remove yourself from the situation. It may be hard but you happiness depends on you.

Until next time:)

Poem: Lost in him

He lives in my mind... Every thought he's there, in every memory he resides. Every dream he awakens, in every fantasy he lives. I can't escape his image that is burned into my head. He lives in my heart... Every beat is for him, in the day & in the night. He lives in my soul... Every piece of my soul has become one with his. He lives in my body... Every touch I feel him, in every kiss I crave him. Every embrace I want him, in every moment I yearn him. I can't run from this temptation, no matter how hard I try. With him is nothing compared to being with you, In just silence with you is home. When he kisses me... It's your lips I imagine. Looking into your eyes was looking at myself. From perfection to second best. There is not enough tears to mourn your loss. How do I tell him, I'm lost in you?

Poem: I don't know how to let you go

You use to say fate brought us together. That was the only explanation that came to mind to explain this attraction... This chemistry... This uniting of our souls.

Every moment with you to form these memories is torture to see these images replay in my mind. But hard to imagine who I would be without them.

I'm constantly reminded by my common sense that I don't know how to let you go.

When we touch... life stops and our souls recognizes each other presence in our bodies. The desire that neither one of us could escape were expressed through the pressing of our lips.

The yearning to be near you is sometimes unbearable. The thought of never seeing your face or feeling the warmth of your body close to mines is painful.

I'm constantly reminded by my heart that I don't know how to let you go.

At some point, we fell in love with each other. This fire grows that lives inside of us. Deep within I know I only exist for you.

We wasn't ready for each other. We are always changing, sometimes too much. Then it's the fear that dwells in us... Fear of hurt, fear of loving, fear of others.

But, I'm constantly reminded by my soul that I don't know how to let you go.

Our souls tied as one but our bodies live separate lives. Our hearts crys for each other but our mouths say we can't be together. Our eyes burn with want for each other but we are blinded by other faces.

We go on pretending that we would never work. We hide the pain of seeing each other try to move on. We fight the tears that want to leave our eyes because we can't let it bother us. We become strangers to each other because distance will eventually numb us. We say mean words to push each other away. We do what ever we have to do so we don't have to feel.

If we cannot be together... How do I let you go?

Love I want❤

When one kiss goodbye isn't enough
When a hug is a sweet embrace as we melt into one
When compliments are a normality and sweet words are our specialty 
When time has no limit nor do we want it to when we are together
When chills goes down my spine when you smile at me
When seeing your text and hearing your voice is the happiest moment of my day
When your touch causes my heart to rapidly beat and set my free at the same time
When listening becomes a priority and laughing becomes our hobby
When butterflies awaken in my stomach from your kisses
When communication is our number one problem solver
When staying together is our number one mission
When love is our life long motivation