Letting go when you have children involved

Staying with someone because you have a child/children  is not love. It's called settling for what you don't want because you have a child. It only causes misery in your relationship and bitterness between each other. Resentment starts to build causing anger and hate to build over time. You will eventually be fighting more than you communcate with each other.

Having more hate in the household than love doesn't help anyone... especially you child/children. If you are not happy, your child/children will not grow up happy. Working it out is fine until you are working it out every other week. Or you are working it out only for your child/ children sake. If your child/children is your only motivation for staying together, it's time to call it quits. No one wants to be in an unhappy household... unhappiness only leads to ugly consequences.

How do you let go? Well if you are in love or not in love as much as the other. Then it will be hard letting go. Please do not confuse you love for that person with the love for your child/children. You do not have to be with that person to take and be present in your child/children life. Your child/children will be apart of both of ya'll forever... don't blame your kid/kids. You can not go cold turkey, you will always have to see that other person regardless of what you feel. That's why your love for your child/children has to be greater. Cutting ties does not mean that your child/children stop growing. Don't put your child/children through pain because you are hurt or don't want to let go. Being a parent means being selfless.

Now if the "in love" part is gone and your love is base on having a child/children together then say goodbye. A relationship doesn't work if theres no mutual love shared. Don't put your child/children through pain because ya'll are forcing each other to be together. It's not going to work no matter what you do. Direct all that energy into loving and only taking care of your child/children. You can hate each other guts but don't show or bring that around your kid/kids. Your child/children watch everything you do as parents, be positive role models. Stop exposing your child/children to misery, unhappiness, and talking bad about each other in front of them. Take care of your responsiblilty with love, respect, and presence... while letting God handle the rest.
Until next time:)